How I Coped With My Stillbirth.
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How I Coped With My Stillbirth.


Hi everybody, it’s Rachel and welcome back to my channel. Welcome to my channel if you were new In today’s video. I’m going to be talking about how I coped with my silver and Just the tips that I did that Helped me through this now. This is not a tips and tricks on how to cope This is just the things that I did that helped me personally, and I hope that maybe they can help you But like I said, it’s just how I cope So we’re gonna get right into it. The first thing I did was let myself cry and Anytime anywhere in the car sitting at home any time I just let myself feel it and cope with that because don’t when you bottle it up It hurts more actually, so let it out and cry and I did that often. I still do that. That’s not Something I I still cry about it. So let I let myself cry So if you want let yourself cry another thing that I did was I reached out for help. And this was I Talked to my mom and my sister and his family members anybody who’s been through the same thing? I started therapy again I started going to a therapist for it and trying to find ways to cope that way and Bobby and I went together to a support group. We only went once it wasn’t for stillbirth It was for a loss. So a lot of people there had lost sisters brothers wives husbands children That to that extent so of all ages and we went only once but it helped tremendously just to hear other people’s stories because there was a woman there who did lose a niece who was an infant and That’s still heartbreaking. So hearing their stories. It was really nice to have another input from other people of different things and to tell our story and I Think that that helped really well So if you did just go through loss they do recommend looking through Like online and in your area for different support groups because I think they are really beneficial for some people Another thing I did was to find something to look forward to and for me that was planning a vacation So when I was pregnant Bobby and I had planned to actually go to Florida for like a babymoon But we lost Mason and I remember in the hospital I said I think that we should go on and this is the cup like today after he said, you know I really think that it would help you if we want I said Absolutely, because I love going away and it really gets my mind off things And one thing that I love to do as a pastime is plan vacations So we had plan to go to Florida and we went and it helped for me Tremendously and a tip that I can give anyone is if you’re going through it and this is something you think you could do Plan a vacation anywhere. It could be a couple days away out of town And I mean, it could be within driving distance. I would have been perfectly fine going up the road for a little bit or Something simple too. So don’t take it as oh, I can’t afford a vacation like a huge week ten-day long vacation whatever it may be but Plan something small a getaway with your partner to do something for the two of you because it’s good to remember that You’re in this together and you’re both coping so it’s definitely worked something trying something. So I Have something to look forward to no matter what that would be for you though so anything that you would look forward to this one kinda ties in to the last one, it’s do things that make you happy so If you can’t go away Do find things that make you happy do your hobbies? No matter what that went that point. I loved coloring and puzzles and stuff So I was just doing things that made me happy. I was going out I was spending time with friends and family and just Doing things made me happy the next thing I did was find things to make you laugh and smile and This is hard when you’re going through it but I remember that I wouldn’t laugh because I felt bad I felt guilty for being happy because I just lost my baby and that is so wrong and you Shouldn’t feel that way. So it’s fine happiness and smile and laugh let yourself let because those moments will really stand out there are moments with Bobby where him and I within the week after we were laying a bed and we would be watching something on YouTube and him and I would just laugh and I remember these moments because they were what made? the moment that made it bright in the saddest time of my life that was something that was uplifting and with just This is an honest do things with your partner. So it dates Go out spend time with friends too, but do a lot of things together and spend this time together Make plans and just try and get through it So it’s spending a lot of time with your partners but I did him and I would go out any dinner or we would order in and just stay in bed and It helped a lot just to be with him and he helped me through it and I helped him through it And I think that’s a great thing to do. And the last thing that I did was stay busy and that is work I’ve got back to work and I found things to do all the time this kind of all ties together, but it’s staying busy and It really really helps and that’s anything if you have it in you to Clean the house and go out go grocery shopping It’s staying busy because with time it does get better and it does get easier and it’s passing that time because in the beginning It’s really really hard to think that there’s anything else and that you’ll ever get over it, but you do Staying busy helps. It really does help After let yourself have that time in bed and upset, but after sometime when you’re ready get up get out and Keep yourself busy Just know that it is hard and you Will be okay You will be able to get through this no matter it might take some time It will take time, but you’ll be able to be okay Sometime and you will be okay and I can’t stress that enough that It’s okay, and you will be okay me Anyway, that’s it for this video Thank you so much for watching. If you enjoyed it give this video a big thumbs up comment down below. Let me know your story Feel free to DM me on instagram. The link is in the Description if you’re going through this uni, so I’m going to talk to them here. I’m more than happy to listen Don’t forget to turn on the notification beli get notified every time it uploaded I upload a video and I really really hope to see you in the next one You

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