My First Week As A Father *emotional*
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My First Week As A Father *emotional*


The days have all blended together. There is no day and night. There is only sleep, eat, and poop. For both me and the baby. (Upbeat try guys into music) Pretty noisy in here because our house is still under construction It’s a work in progress. Any one thing would be enough. Uhhh ok I haven’t fully gotten used to being a father yet. A lot of things have happened… This is my first week as a father When Wesley was born, I was overwhelmed. I was just sort of, barely keeping it together Oh! I’m gonna meet my baby! And then there he was! He was on Ariel’s chest for a long time And then I held him skin-to-skin. I had my hand on his back. He was on my chest Most of my first photos are with me not having a shirt on because as soon as he was born I ripped off my shirt. I was like, “Skin-to-skin! Let’s do this!” I’m very into it So, the nurses the hospital were really great. They showed us how to Change him, how to give him a swaddle, how to feed him. Once the birth is over You still got a baby! At the hospital there’s just a stream of appointments and visitors and it can be exhausting. There’s nurses that come in, there’s doctors that come in do tests on the baby, there’s a hearing test, a vision test. Then there’s the person with the birth certificate and they’re like, “Hey, you have to fill this birth certificate.” And we’re like, “Oh, we haven’t picked a middle name yet!” So we had to do that There’s an official photographer, someone who is a lactation consultant. Didn’t even realize that was a job. And then at night, it’s just, it’s on you. You gotta figure out how to calm the baby I was worried that I wasn’t gonna know what to do I thought I had to read all these books and Since he came so early I didn’t get a chance to read any of the books. I haven’t read the baby books I’m gonna be a bad daddy! All of the tricks are not as important as just Realizing that he’s your baby and he’s already trying to talk to you and communicate what his needs are so that was, that was really cool. After two days in the hospital, it was time to go home. There’s a little checklist of all of the different tests. Once he has passed all of them, he can go home. So, the final test is something called the car seat test. That is basically a test that lets you know he is okay in a car seat. Even if he gets fussy. So they strap him into a car seat for 90 minutes and then even if he’s crying you’re just supposed to just let it pan out because, if you’re trapped on a freeway in traffic and he’s crying, you’re not necessarily gonna be able to pull over and calm him so they strapped him to oxygen monitors and heart rates to make sure everything is stable during the car seat ride. He gets an hour into the car seat test, it’s 90 minutes and then his oxygen level starts dropping. I think he was just hungry and he was really fussy Umm He, his, he His his neck must have been dropping down and he wasn’t getting as much oxygen so they have to take him out of the car seat and then put like a little oxygen mask on him Umm It- At this point, he’s failed the carseat test and that means that he’s not going home Now all of a sudden he is a baby who’s failed the carseat test and needs monitoring I’ve half loaded the car, I’m like carrying the yoga ball I’m, carrying all of our bags all of the snacks! All of the goldfish. I come back I’m just ready to grab the baby from the nurses and they’re like, “Oh no, umm, he failed the test. He’s headed to the NICU.” if You have a baby that has been to the NICU I am So sorry because it is a very scary place. NICU stands for the Neonatal intensive care unit. That’s basically a place where really sick babies go there are some babies there that were born at 32 weeks old or, some babies that, I mean we walk in and there’s a baby getting a blood transfusion. There’s a little baby getting a surgery There’s babies that are under intense blue lights, babies that are hooked up to breathing devices and oxygen tanks and it’s just Nobody- nobody nobody wants to have a sick baby and there are some parents that are there for a month as their baby just gets gets bigger and gets healthier. They put him in a little umm Little plastic case, connect all these electrodes to him, they put an IV in his little arm. So he has the tiniest hand ever and then, they strap like, this giant tube into his arm uhh He’s crying and he’s He’s just, he’s just a little baby He’s crying so hard that he has like, a single tear that runs down his cheek and- and- And it went from everyone saying that he was the healthiest baby to that, he’s too small, not big enough, or not strong enough. And he was, he was a tiny guy yeah, you know it’s like, he was, he was born a little early and I don’t know. I don’t know if I can keep talking about this Me and Arielle just held each other and cried for a while. Fortunately, they give us the courtesy room but, it only has one bed so, both of us are sharing a hospital bed They’re like, “You can get an air mattress, if you want to.” I’m like, “I don’t want to leave my baby. But, thank you for the offer.” I got Chipotle and the burrito made me feel better. The kind of unexpected silver lining is, he had 24/7 monitoring, which means that we could Actually get some sleep. We started reading the unabridged Lord of the Rings to him. Really, just to each other we got about As far as Frodo getting the ring Still pretty good. It’s pretty far So after 48 hours, they redo the carseat test. We sit next to him the entire time. Just keeping a silent vigil over his tests. He just sleeps the entire time, all 90 minutes and He’s totally fine. They finally cut the wristband off of both of us, officially hand us the baby, put him snug in his car seat in the car now, and we drive him home. [Ariel]
Wesley! Your first car trip! [Ned] Hi, Wes! That drive was traumatizing! I was so focused on not getting into an accident as well as seeing how he was doing. And I keep like, looking in the rearview mirror to check on him. And then I’m like missing the directions and not actually paying attention to the road. So I just had to ignore the baby and focus on the road. But it’s like, what do you do? What do you do if the baby is fussing while you’re driving? Do you just pull over to the side road and then just feed him? I thought that was the only plan we had. Then, we brought him home. Just, settled into our new life together. Uhh, he pooped all over me. Like, there was a stream of poop going from his butt to my stomach! He’s also peed on me several times. I’ve gotten pretty good at blocking it with my hand. BLOCKED! It’s strange because there’s not much to do with a newborn baby. There’s the basket, There he is! Monkey! [Sung] This is a lullaby! He makes this face that’s like: I don’t know why he does it! He likes to be held, he likes to be bounced. He’ll fall asleep in my arms and that’s really special Those first couple of days. He mostly just slept the whole time, but the 10-15 minutes a day that he had his eyes open Checking out the world were just, magical. He’s got such beautiful eyes It’s like babies are inherently curious. Like, they just they just kind of look around and they don’t really focus on you but they can kind of, they’ll turn their head. They hear your voice and Sometimes they’ll look at something and get really interested. I feel like I’ve never, not been a dad I thought this would so drastically change my life and I thought that I would be a different person But it’s, it’s still me and now it’s just life is more, more full. It’s almost like, life is in three dimensions now. I just can’t wait to watch him grow and change and develop more personality traits and, see what type of person he’s gonna become. (Upbeat outro music) Why did I ever need eight hours of sleep? So silly!

100 Comments

  • Kaleb Brennan

    I was an NICU baby and I am expected to die at 14 or 15 years old and I'm ten that's a small life to live for and a lot of things I'll miss out on don't want to die and I want to break the expectence that I'll die at that age but there is a little chance of surviving

  • Katie Parnell

    My little brother was in the NICU for a week because he has a rare birth defect (have a surgery at a day old and all that jazz) it's hard but if it wasn't for it there would be a lot more suffering families and babies

  • Giuliana M

    I'm so sorry that you had to experience that. But I hope Wes is doing good now. ( Well I Know he is OK Because i watched previous videos )

  • Sutton Patricia

    when my little brother was born he was shaking the doctors thought he was having seizures so they had to move him to a different hospital in boston and my family and I could really only see him like once a week because we lived far away from boston but thank god he wasn't having seizures he was having tremors and he was ok

  • Jonah Todd

    As a dad who went through a similar experience, it’s nice to see you be so reflective and take inventory of, at the time, your short time as a father

  • Emily Baltau

    Wes is just such a sweet, adorable, baby cinnamon roll! Ned, Ariel, and Wes, you are such special, amazing, beautiful people who deserve only happiness and love.

  • Mudasser Kamal

    My little brother was premature by three to four months he had chronic lung disease and he had to be in the hospital. At one point they recommended a trac- tube in his throat but they didn’t need to put it in. He finally came home but he had oxygen and a g-tube because he couldn’t eat. He was also on trepostional for a few months before he had it taken off. He got his oxygen taken off months after that. He is still on his g-tube to this day. He is two years old and still can’t stand by himself. Just the other day I saw a baby that was less than one year old walking and talking. I’m so happy that your baby got home safe and sound.

    👇🏼press this to send a prayer to Ned’s newborn baby wesley

  • Q Leader Q Q Chan Q

    My mom works for the nicu. My mom said at night that they are little gremlins. But when ned said those things he saw, it maid my heart Drop. It’s so sad what’s happens to baby’s. If you ever have a child, Love them. 🙂

  • moonvariant

    A random question from non-white people here, would Ned be considered a ginger? Or his hair color is just brown?

  • PERIDOT CEO

    I was in the nicu because when I can out of my mom (14 weeks early) I was bearly breathing and my mom said it was so hard seeing me weak but she was still there but My mom lost my twin sister. My twin couldn’t make it, she had a big hole in her heart that she was too weak to handle it. I visit her grave every year and sometimes i can hear laughter in my head. I think it’s just me playing with her in my dreams because I did have those dreams.Her name is Faith. Faith, I hope you are watching this and my family from heaven and I’ll soon join you once it is my time to go, I love you so much and you will always be my older sister. -i love you
    Ashley ❤️

  • Maddie Pasco

    I was a NICU baby. I was born four months early and weighed 1 lb and 4 oz. I stayed in the hospital for a long time, but I'm 21 years old now, turning 22 in October. You guys are so strong and we all love you!!

  • Matthew Robinson

    I was 4 months premature and I was in the NICU till my actual due date (was born July 27, 2000, and my due date was November 5, 2000) I don't know how I am alive, but I am so thankful that I am. My mom and I both could have died when I was born because they did an emergency c-section because her liver and kidneys shut down because she went into preeclampsia. My mom and I are both so thankful to be alive. I don't have a birth defect besides ADD, which is ADHD, but without the hyperactive, if you didn't know. My dad also has ADD. I was 1lb, 12oz when I was born. I found out a few years ago that if I was missing one more chromosome, I would have down syndrome. Anyways, I am now 18, going to be 19 this month and I can't wait to see what the future holds for me.

  • Cass unicorn

    Me before i watch this :"im not gonna cry not gonna cry" me after* wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh;hhhhhhhhhhhhhjjjhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh*

  • John Texas

    I'm a health care administrator. I'm just so very, very grateful that we have NICU units in our hospitals. So very many people in this world would have had to watch their child die.

  • MaddieMakes _Gacha

    My aunt’s baby was premature the second he was born they said to say goodbye well now he’s 7 and a def and blind toddler who can’t walk but is still living his best life and I am so grateful for him ❤️

  • Nathan Nguyen

    I was not a NICU baby, I was monitored just to make sure my health was normal. I’m sorry Ned that you had to go through this. 🙁

  • C.o.R (Lex)

    Shoutout to my siblings for being able to have kids and not immediately crumble under the stress because jesus if our family isn't emotional 24/7

  • Chy White

    My daughter was premi also she was 35 weeks an 6 days she had to stay 8 days an yes it very scary but I'm very glad ur son is healthy an okay my daughter is now 4 months old almost 5 an she is 100% healthy an perfect

  • Robynn.Ninjah

    The day I have borth to my son, I was 37 weeks pregnant.

    We already had a diagnosis of down syndrome, 2 heart defects, and as soon as he was born, they whisked him away to nicu, no skin to skin, nothing, just whisked away. They monitored him heavily, blue lights, heart monitors, oxygen tubes and ivs, all of that. Serveral days later, he wasnt eating properly and they were concerned with his weight, so we ended up having to put an NG tube in, 2 months and a pound and a half dropped later. He was so little, we had to put bundled baby blankets all the way around him in his premie carseat, as well as having to buy build a bear clothes because he couldnt fot into his premies yet.

    Hes 4 years now. And hes thriving ❤❤ babies are tough humans.

  • Jasmine Mar

    Ned is so strong, I have a son whom was also sent to the NICU after only having him for 6 hours, he was there for 48 hrs and it was the worst, don't wish that to anyone. I'm glad your baby is a strong healthy baby now!

  • Benita Leveiro

    No wonder he’s always like “I’m a father now so-“ because he really truly loves his baby. This video’s beautiful♥️

  • Kawaii Potato

    My baby brother was 3 month early and he was in the nice for a long time, but he's all good now! He's two and he's finally learning to talk alot. He can only say words not sentences, but he's get alot better!

  • leo artie

    Ned and Ariel are seriously going to be the world's best parents
    (Little word of advice, when they get to about one years old, they get hurt ALOT, because they're running around and wanting to explore everything. Maybe it's just my baby girl, but she would eat EVERYTHING- even the bed at one point- and yea, she got hurt. So don't be scared or feel that it is your fault when Wes gets hurt- the best thing about babys and toddlers is that they get right back up and do what they want to. it's amazing! Anyway, good luck! Haha)

  • Malec! At the discø

    Hey. I couldn’t breathe when I was newborn because I was dumb and didn’t figure it out oops but my parents were told I would most likely die in a few hours. I’m too stubborn and contrary for that (only time it was ever useful lol) so… yeah. I’m not dead. And kids are difficult. Keep at it.

  • Christopher Desumas

    When I heard him talking about the NICU it reminded me about the time my mom told me when my sister was 1 years old that she had to go back to the hospital to run test on her vision and other things because she was born a preme which means she was very sensitive and when she went into the room my mom had to stay out side and she was bawling her eyes out ' cause she was so scared

  • Renton Wittrien

    I was 7 weeks early and went to the NICU I'm 11 and I'm healthy I wish your family the most happy years ever

  • Yes, hello I like pink

    Ned is such a loving and kind person it breaks my heart to see him cry. I’m glad Wes is alright now, and I pray you all have a happy future together.

  • Kimberly Lunk

    That feeling of always being a parent is so true! It's hard to grasp but at the same time, you feel like they've always been there. It's insane. I loved this!

  • Safiya R

    Someone is cutting onions I’m my room! It really pains me to see Ned sad, because he is such a happy person usually. You’ll be a great dad Ned!

  • Sarah G

    The NICU is awful and so is the car seat test I thought we were passed the worst until he had his first newborn peds appointment and the doctor said he looks jaundice go back to the hospital and have them do the bilirubin test and my husband was at work so I had to go back alone with him so I called my husband and I said what fresh hell is this?
    Thankfully a sweet little older lady was working in the lab and she was fantastic because I was on the verge of tears and so then she told me how they do the test because I didn't know and so she just put him in a tiny bassinet and then you have to draw blood from the foot and he screamed so loud I started to cry because I am picking up what you are putting down because just seeing your tiniest little family member is in crisis be thankfully he passed the bilirubin test and so the doctor said just lay him in the sun for two weeks to see if we can get the yellow tinge to his skin he was born near Thanksgiving so when we went home for the holidays everyone agreed
    with me that his skin looked normal

  • Heather OCallaghan

    Newborns should never be in a car seat for more than 30 minutes! What is this test that is designed to fail?

  • Victoria Menendez

    When my younger sister was about 9 months old she would cry and fuss if she wasn’t being carried by my mom. Every doctor my mom went to told her she’s just a needy baby. A few days later, my sister is not breathing and my mom has to perform CPR on her baby, before the ambulance comes. Turns out she had pneumonia and had discharge in her lungs. My mom spent a week by my sister’s side at the hospital, and to this day she says it was the scariest experience of her life. My mom saw this video and wanted me to tell you she’s sorry you and your wife had to go through such a terrible experience with your baby, but she’s very glad that he’s a happy healthy little boy now.

  • xs_ fox

    I was very underfed because my mum could produce enough milk for me. I also had a light case of yellowfever and i am totally fine today at 24 😊 You'll do great!

  • Lilian Alvzz

    I was a NICU baby.. i cant believe how scary it was for my parents..
    It was the doctors fault too for not letting my mom push so i would have died if the doctors messed up again

  • GSD luv

    My sister was born at 32 weeks and we were terrified that she wasn't going to be ok. They told us she was going to need an eating and breathing tube. When she was born she weighed 6.13 pounds and she grabbed the nurses finger and started sucking on it and they told us she would not need either the feeding tube or the breathing tube because she was healthy. She had to stay in the NICU for 5 days though because they wanted to make sure she was ok. My dad was just like ned when we brought the baby home. I'm just so glad she is ok and she is now 1 and half years old🥰🥰

  • Ren 82

    I was a NICU baby I had 3 blood transfusions I still have the scar on my hand today and I had bad asthma when I was younger but today I am compliantly healthy

  • Tayler Dragoo

    My precious baby was a nicu baby.. the hardest most scariest thing I have ever gone through. She is perfectly healthy now. So blessed❤️

  • Louise Aylott

    My baby niece was born 11 weeks early due to my sister having preeclampsia which caused all her organs to shut down and caused a coma (which she is now fully recovered from) , little bean was born via a c- section at 2lbs 8oz on the 9th of July and couldn’t breathe on her own she spent 3 months in sbcu until she was well enough to come home , she turned 8 this year and has surpassed all odds and there is no one I am more proud of than that healthy baby girl who is sitting with me right now telling me I’m her best friend ❤️

  • ѕтfυ ѕσρнιє

    My mom had to have her stomach cut open because the umbilical cord was around my neck and i had fluid in my lungs. I could of died. Thankfully i am here today.

  • Alexis Thwing

    This is the only Try Guys video that made me cry. Also I was in the NICU when I was 2 weeks old because of an eye infection. I almost went blind. Im 28 now and other than being a little near sighted my eyes are fine.

  • Alex Stephens

    I was a NICU baby, I was born a full month early with a congenital heart disease, and I am going to celebrate my 21st birthday in December. I am 100% healthy and living my life to the fullest. Your baby is strong and is going to be ok, and you are going to be a wonderful dad, so don't worry.

  • Rylee 087

    I was a really sick baby, when I was born I was orange….. I was originally supposed to be born at the end of August but then I was born early so at the end of july and if i where to have been born in August i wouldnt have made it, and thoses intense blue lights help the baby with sicknesses. I had to be under there for almost a week (breaks everyday)

  • Panderichthys rhombolepis

    I think we should spare a thought for all the babies in the 3rd world who don't get half of what Wes would get/got. How often do we think of, much less cry for, them?

  • Camryn Oyster

    1. this is why ned is my favorite!!!
    2. wes is gonna turn out to be one of the most amazing and beautiful kids and adults ever! he has so many people who love him, probably more than a million at this point!! we love you ned!!

  • leopardappygirl

    Children make you believe in God. They teach you how to pray for them as if nobody exists except you, your baby and the God who created him and has the power to fix everything.

  • 陳心悠

    When I was a baby , once I was born and then immediately I had a lump in my spot and the first hospital messed up the surgery and I needed to go to another hospital and I was in a very bad shape I was under shaped

  • Ruby Bishop

    I was a Intense Care baby, but I’m alive! I was born with the umbilical cord strangling me, and I was severely ill. So happy you’re all okay!

  • Wasanee

    Never heard of “The carseat test” while the baby is sitting in it for an hour.
    When I had my son, the hospital/nurse did an inspection of the carseat and test the carseat once it was installed in the base and in the car to make sure it is secure and safe for the baby. My son was a NICU baby also.
    This must be a new law or depends where you live🤷🏻‍♀️

  • Alison Irvine

    I had twins, the boy was in Nicu for 3 months then a general ward for a further 3 months, it’s terrifying, humbling and uplifting all at the same time. At 6 months my boy came home and my twins were finally together again. 7 years later and we have never looked back.

  • hermest99

    Carseat test to NICU feels like something that only happens in America. Most children aren’t going to be in traffic for hours in the first week. Just advise the parents to stay home and follow advice and call the GP if anything seems off. Never heard of anything so unnecessarily invasive before in pediatrics.

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